This article is about some of the things that my 20s have taught me. In your twenties you learn that you never really become an adult, just that people start expecting you to act like one. So you start pretending to be grown up, even though you still feel like a scared little child. Here I picked the most important 20 things that you should learn in your twenties:
You love a person to learn how to love. By and by love spreads far and wide. That person remains significant because that person becomes the door, and from that door you start moving back and forth. This is going to happen — and there’s nothing to worry about.
The friendships you nurture will have a greater effect on your life than where you work or what you earn.
You are not your job. You are not your bankroll. You are not the sum of your possessions. The company you work at does not love you for the simple reason that it’s not a living person. You are replaceable and therefore you should keep your parachute handy.
Few decisions will ever shape your future life more than who you choose to marry. To marry well, you must choose well.
Stop thinking that love is that giddy feeling of attraction. Start thinking that love is about respect, commitment, loyalty, and the deliberate choice to move past negative emotions that might pull things apart. Love is not about fair weather relationships. It’s about weathering storms together.
Believe it or not, passions grow out of your values. Make early, wise choices to value what (and who) is good, trustworthy, and praiseworthy.
Integrity preserved is honor won.
Rejoice in your health. It fades fast.
Pick a hobby and own it: photography, juggling—whatever. Get your 10 thousand hours of perfect practice in early and change your life.
This only leads to heartbreak, anger, and disappointment and most disappointments grow from unmet expectations. Set realistic expectations for yourself, based on your strengths (our your weaknesses), then strive to exceed them.
Either change your situation, learn to cope, or change your perspective.
Don’t worry about making big bucks out of the gate, worry first about doing whatever you have to do excellently.
No great man or woman ever achieved significance without great failures to learn from.
Never withhold an apology when it’s merited. Deliver it quickly, sincerely, and personally—before resentment festers.
You don’t need to nurture old guilt when you’re forgiven. But remembering the shame can help you avoid repeats.
The main thing you need to do quickly is to stop doing things quickly. Trade hurry for calm, confidence, and precision.
If you want to develop your passion and gift, stop worrying about the things you do poorly.
Avoid fights. Seriously. Avoid them like a plague: nobody wins in a fight, even if you walk away unscathed. But when a fight picks you, leave everything on the mat and give it your all. Hold nothing back.
The skills that will help your career most are the abilities to assimilate, communicate, and persuade. Keep learning.
It truly matters what you think about. Think well by reading good books, building good and loving relationships, having good conversations, and imitating the mindests of the greatest people.